Sextoys are now available in lots and lots of colours, shapes, textures and features. Making the right choice with such a wide range of products, especially if you are new to it, can be overwhelming. If you are still at the beginning of your toy career, there is a lot to know beforehand and a lot of suitable toys for you.
Gay sex toys – Why you should try them!
Sex toys must have been a taboo subject in the past – although they already existed in Ancient Greece. Even Cleopatra is said to have developed the first vibrator. She allegedly had the idea of filling a hollow bottle with buzzing bees. The violent buzzing made the gourd vibrate and then …. well, the rest is history.
But thanks to the media, education and openness in dealing with sexuality and its facets, sex toys no longer belong in the dirty corner and nowadays, you are almost in the minority if you don’t own one. So come on, there are plenty of positive and healthy ways to explore your sexuality, and at least one toy for everyone.
Safety First – even with sex toys, safe sex is important
What is a matter of course and common sense should be mentioned here along with a few other important points.
Size is (of course) important, but this does not mean that bigger is always better. Therefore, choose a product that you feel comfortable with and take it slowly. Do not make unrealistic demands on your own body, as this can lead to injury. If you are unsure, and especially if you are inexperienced with (anal) sex toys, you should start small.
When you have your chosen toy in your hands, you should check it for any damage, faults or special instructions. Also, make sure there are no sharp edges and that all battery-powered functions are working properly before you put it on your best piece of ass or butt – these terms are there for a reason. ?
The material of sex toys is as varied as their shape and colour. From natural materials like wood, glass, stone, ceramic, acrylic, crystals, steel, aluminium, leather, latex, nylon, vinyl, hard and soft plastic, ABS, PVC, elastomer, to synthetic skin, jelly rubber and silicone and many more, there are some that are safer than others. We recommend that you choose a non-porous toy that is, as far as possible, free from latex and phthalates.
We enjoy playing with sex toys as much as the next person, but remember: safety is not a game!
Do
- choose a toy that does not contain latex or phthalates
- use a condom if the toy contains latex or is porous
- use lube that is compatible with the toy
- Clean toy before and after each use
- Properly sterilise non-porous toys before sharing
Don’t
- share porous toy
- Use a toy that is too big or too small for your body
- deviate from the instructions or use a toy in a way other than specified
- use toys in different colours without cleaning them in between
- use broken or damaged toys
Solo or with your partner – sex toys will improve your sex life in the long run
The most famous sex toy in the world is the already mentioned dildo. Sure, the penis-filling pleasure bomb is used by all of us with pleasure and delight. But there’s much, much more you can do to spice up your sex life. We have a small hit list of the most popular gay toys, which can be extended as much as you like:
- Analtoys: Penis abductors, anal beads, anal plugs, vibrators, XL dildos, butt plugs
- Dick Toys: Cock Rings, Penis Pumps, Sex Dolls, Masturbators
- Other: BDSM toys, nipple clamps, electric toys, cosplay items
Not all toys are suitable for everyone. It’s a trial-and-error journey. Sex toys can increase intimacy with your partner by extending pleasure. They help overcome limitations in the human body, allowing for more enjoyable experiences. Experiment with different toys during foreplay, such as vibrators, nipple clamps, or a Fleshlight, to prolong the fun. Switch to a sex toy during intercourse to ensure mutual satisfaction and climax together.
However, the motto “sharing is caring” is not always entirely true. If the toys are porous, we recommend that you keep them all to yourself, as selfish as that may sound. Non-porous toys, on the other hand, can be passed around at will during the horny sex party, as long as you sterilise them thoroughly between each person and use. You can make it a little easier on yourself by putting a condom on all disposable toys before using them. Look out for non-porous, phthalate-free toys and avoid spreading STIs through easily avoidable bad habits
Because that way, each of you is guaranteed a fair share of fun!
All rubber, or what? High-quality sex toys are a must
A word about phthalates. Yes, it sounds like someone has made a mistake, but in fact it is a plasticiser for plastic that was used in sex toys for many years. Today, this substance is not used in the production of most high-quality sex toys. Not only because of its unpleasant smell, and chemical reactions to other types of rubber – they literally melt each other … – but also because of its unclear effects on the body, it is not used. All kinds of jelly toys are also unsuitable, because the rubber material can be toxic in the worst case. Instead, modern industry uses high-quality, medical-grade silicone to produce soft toys. High-quality plastics are more suitable anyway, because they are hard-wearing and can be used with lubricating gel. This makes them feel even safer and hornier and, with the right care, they last longer.
So when buying your gay sex toy, make sure that it has been manufactured to a high standard and does not come from dubious production.
Which dildo is the right one for me?
If it’s too long, are you too tight? The logic of buying an (anal) sex toy is not that simple. Especially if you are just starting out, a smaller model is the better solution for you. For many gays, dildos are also a wonderful preparation for the first anal time. So if you’ve never been the passive part, try a dildo, prostate toy or vibrator.
Our advice to you: Start small and then work your way up to your desired size. For men, the choice of size is a little different from women. The anal mucosa itself is a little more hard-wearing. If we want to reach our P-point (the prostate) with the dildo, a certain minimum length (10 to 12 cm) makes sense. The thickness? That’s secondary for now! It only matters if you feel well settled in, and then you need to be full.
Now we are constantly talking about small things, but of course there are also the massive ones. They are only suitable to a limited extent for beginners, although there are good ways to relax. Poppers, for example, will loosen you up if you think you can’t do it.
When choosing large XL dildos or fisting models, you should be careful. Anatomically shaped and made of safe material, they offer you a safety toy for lots of fun.
Not yet a toy? Then let’s go!
The use of sex toys brings many advantages. Not only is it good for mental health, but it can also promote intimacy with yourself and increase sexual satisfaction. Whether solo play or if you want to spice up your bedroom with your partner or willing guys.
Here are some of the benefits of sex toys:
- improve your sex life
- good for your self-confidence
- improve intimacy and your relationship with your partner
- made with scientific evidence to satisfy you
- help you sleep better
- help with sexual dysfunction
- give you faster and more effective orgasms
- increase your libido
- lower your blood pressure
- count sex toys as “exercise”
- Lower the risk of heart attack
- Contribute to the relief of body aches
- preventive towards prostate – cancer
One final thought though: the orgasm, while awesome, should not be the only goal in sex. It is the icing on the cake. Sex is still about the journey, how to get to the destination. And sex toys are a great help along the way.
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