The term cruising actually comes from English and was mainly used by sailors. It means “to sail around” or “to cruise by ship”. If you are a gay man, it has a special meaning for you. Because then it describes your seeking out gay meeting places where you can have sex, i.e. a gay sex meeting. In the US, cruising even has its own holiday. National Outdoor Intercourse Day on May 8. This cruising guide tells you which places to go and what to look out for when cruising.
Why is cruising still so popular?
Do you wonder why so many gay men are still into cruising in the age of the World Wide Web and the countless ways to find a date? The answer to this question is probably the excitement and attraction you feel when cruising. Of course, nowadays, you can search for a suitable sex partner via the Internet from the comfort of your sofa and invite him to join you. The fact that many men still go on a cruising tour is probably also due to the hunting instinct that is inherent in us humans. Nothing is more exciting and arousing than communicating with strange men solely through eye contact and finding out whether they are as willing as you are.
If you leave your home comfort zone and look for a sex partner in the real world at the cruising locations, this is much more exciting than looking at pictures on the internet and imagining what the person in the picture sounds and looks like in nature. Cruising means looking for someone who will fuck you (with or without a condom) or suck the hot juice out of your cock with a good dose of poppers up your nose.
Where to find cruising areas
The places where men meet for quick sex are many and varied. They can be outdoor places, such as certain areas of parks or woods, sections of riverbanks or lakeshores, or even lonely parking lots along the motorway or rest areas. But there are also plenty of indoor possibilities. Dark rooms, gay saunas, public toilets or porn cinemas are often used, but also swimming pools or underground stations. Men like to meet in all these places to have uncomplicated, hot and often anonymous sex with other men.
To make sure that you really get your money’s worth when cruising, you should find out in advance where known cruising places are located in a city or region. On relevant websites of the LGBTIQ* community, you will find corresponding information about which places are popular gay clubs. Often there are even exact times or time frames given when this or that cruising place is worthwhile. And you can probably find a top or bottom with whom you can enjoy a blowjob or fuck.
What should you look out for when cruising?
If you are into cruising or want to try it for the first time, there are several things you should pay attention to. Apart from good preparation, this also concerns your health and, above all, your protection.
Preparation and cleanliness
First, you can do some groundwork by searching for suitable sex partners on appropriate gay dating apps. Like Grindr, Scruff or even on good old Twitter. On platforms like Squirt there are forums where you can announce when and where you will be to have sex with someone.
In addition to this preparatory work, you should prepare your body for the upcoming outdoor or indoor fun. For bottoms, this means making sure they are clean in and around the key areas, e.g. with an anal shower. This way, every cruising contact becomes a hot and, above all, clean pleasure.
Health is trumps – Protection from STIs when cruising
When cruising, keep an eye on your sexual health. Remember that you are usually in contact with men you don’t know. And you don’t know how much they take care of their own health. And whether they might already be affected by STIs. It is generally a good idea to get tested regularly for HIV and STIs. This will significantly increase your chances of staying healthy. If you use PrEP, make sure you are up-to-date on the dosage. You should also always take condoms and lube with you when cruising. That way, you don’t have to rely on your sex partner having them in their pocket.
Looks and body language – This is how you recognise and signal interest
When the time has come, and you are at the cruising spot, it is important to recognise and send out the right signals. Eye contact and body language are the main means of communication when cruising. Usually a person signals if they are interested in you by looking at you, winking at you or smiling at you.
If your partner likes you, you should also seek eye contact with him. This way he knows that you are also interested in a lively date of some kind. The other person’s body language can also show you that he is willing to get into bed with you. Popular gestures include grabbing the nipple or the best piece of ass.
Border note: If you are cruising in a porn cinema or a gay sauna with glory holes, you can tell when the person on the other side is ready by the way they finger the hole for you to see. Then you can stick your hard cock through the hole for a hot blowjob with cumshot into your partner’s throat.
You decide about cruising sex
When cruising, you should always remember that you decide what goes and what doesn’t go. You don’t have to have sex with everyone just because they give you a hot look or invite you with an appropriate movement. If you are not in the mood for him, it is helpful for both of you to send a clear signal. Be it through words, a look or a shake of the head. It is always uncomfortable to turn down someone’s advances. But in the context of cruising, clarity is definitely an expression of friendliness. Because you are saving each other wasted time.
Protect yourself from scams and robbery
Before you go cruising, it is wise to tell a person you trust where and when you are going. This way, they will know all the details of your trip and will be reassured when they receive a message after your trip to say that nothing went wrong. When cruising outdoors at night, always keep an eye on your surroundings and be as vigilant as possible during sex play.
Unfortunately, there are always so-called queer bashers who have made it their goal to insult gay men, rob them or hurt them. Such attacks on members of the LGBTIQ* community have been on the rise again for some time. Therefore, when cruising, it is advisable to have an exit strategy. Such as looking at how to get out of a place as quickly as possible when entering the cruising area. Putting your clothes back on quickly can also be useful.
In addition, the police are not always the friend of the cruising community. There are more patrols in parks or public toilets, especially when residents complain. Sex in public can be prosecuted and punished as a public nuisance. So when cruising, always make sure there are no police around when you do your hot number.
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