Twinks – admittedly, it is sometimes not so easy to learn all the terms of the gay scene by heart. You don’t have to! If you like a guy, it doesn’t really matter which category he fits into. In the end, the only thing that counts is that he suits you.
But if you still want to stay up to date, we’ll explain to you what type of man is called a twink. Maybe you are one yourself and don’t know it yet?
Slim, young and hairless are twinks
Your lover is slim, young and has hardly any body hair? My dear, you’ve got yourself a twink! At least that’s the categorisation used in the gay scene. (Source: https://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/twink)
At the end of the day, however, this is just a stereotype. Because it’s hard to draw conclusions about orientation from the way they look. The typical apps like Grindr, however, rely precisely on these categorisations and many a bear or daddy is specifically looking for twinks for sexual pleasure!
Properties of twinks – Risk of stigmatisation?
Many gays expect twinks to be the submissive part during sex, and that they prefer dominant types like the Bear as partners. But be careful, people are quick to judge here. There are definitely young, slim and hairless guys who prefer such a guy as a lover. So you can’t conclude that a twink has certain sexual preferences just by looking at him.
It’s possible that the handsome, slim guy at the bar is actually dreaming of doing you with a fisting dildo and is not a bit submissive!
#Twink and #Daddy– dream team, or not?
It is difficult to judge people on the basis of their appearance. And to draw conclusions about certain preferences from their appearance alone. However, men who categorise themselves as #Twink often prefer sexual activities with dominant, older guys like Daddy or Bear.
Whether a guy belongs to the genre of twinks or not depends on his own desires. Unasked-for pigeonholing is not a good idea and can even hurt people. If, on the other hand, you consider yourself to be a twink, specifying this type can even help you find the right partner. For example, some men are specifically looking for twinks to live out their preferences and really let it rip in bed.
Twink lover – that’s what he’s after
A typical twink lover is a man who has sexual or romantic feelings for young and slim men who belong to the twink pattern. So-called twink requests are common on Grindr, and many youngsters explicitly declare themselves as twink.
The prey profile of these lovers is usually oriented towards an age range between 18 and 25 years, although older men with a youthful appearance can also be included. On Grindr, twink requests include not only sexual offers, but often also quid pro quos. Guys from all other tribes, for example, are happy to offer Twinks pocket money or material appreciation in exchange for an erotic weekend.
Do we really need categorisations like #Twink and Co.?
Gays don’t always have an easy time finding a suitable lover. The guy at the cash register doesn’t have it written on his forehead that he likes men like you do. So it makes sense for us to work with identifiers in the scene and in dating.
Tribes like #Twink are used especially on Grindr to better assess oneself and others. Whether you want to be categorised accordingly is up to you. You like older guys, you are submissive, you are looking for a little pocket money here and there, and you look like a twink? Then of course there’s no reason why you shouldn’t put this attitude on your profile.
But it can also work differently: Maybe you are exactly this slim, handsome, young gay who visually falls under the category Twink. Instead of looking for a bear, you’re going all twinks yourself! With a little “no-wink” in your profile, you can make sure that the sexy requests don’t blow up your inbox and that everyone knows where they stand with you.
And where does the term come from? Who invented twinks?
There is still only speculation about the origin of many of the terms. Twinks are said to have been officially invented in the USA in the 1960s. At that time, people were not officially allowed to be homosexual and developed a language that could also be used in public.
It is speculated whether Twinks actually derive from the “Twinkie cake”. This cake is filled with a sweet cream and has only low nutritional values. Consequently, Twinks were considered sugary but with little added value. Is this story about the origin of the term true? No one will be able to confirm that 100 %. But we know exactly how twinks are defined today.
Our tip to you: Before you catalogue and classify people, do a reality check. Not every slim, slender guy is automatically a twink. But if he wants to be, categorisation in dating helps a lot.
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